Over the course of our lives, we have all done a thing or two that we end up regretting. We have all been there.
And it’s okay; it is entirely normal.
Most of us have made mistakes and what’s important is learning from them. But guilt sometimes has the power of creeping into our thoughts and create emotional turmoil.
Guilt is that itching feeling you get when you want to take something back, turn the hands of time and choose a different option.
Guilt is that gut-wrenching feeling you get when your heart knows the truth but it’s too hard to face.
Guilt is knowing that you have done something wrong and you simply cannot take it back.
This isn’t something that you have to live with for the rest of your lives.
But, you can’t choose to play the victim just because you cannot let go of what you’ve done.
If you let guilt ruin your life, it becomes toxic.
Escaping Toxic Guilt
The difference between usual guilt and toxic guilt is enormous!
Toxic guilt is allowing your past to chain your feet to the ground. It’s as if you’re bound and you can’t keep moving forward.
But this ends today. You don’t have to continue living like this.
You can escape this toxic guilt, like how the great Houdini performed his chain escape trick — by using magic.
What magic am I referring to? The magic that has been inside you for so long that you might have already forgotten about it.
What is it? It’s your magic to heal.
Healing is so beautiful because it can address your past pains and turn them into a learning experience.
And by learning, you can accept what has happened and live your life like a new person.
You see, if you keep living with guilt, it will drain joy and contentment out of your life. It will leave you miserable.
Here are some tips on how you can free yourself from what binds you to your past:
1. Name Your Guilt
Accept its presence.
Perhaps, right now, you’re ignoring it and hoping that eventually, it will go away but that seldom happens.
So, what you have to do, is name your guilt. Let it know that you know about its existence.
Then, take a step back and remember when you felt guilty and write it down in your journal.
Once you have acknowledged its presence, it is time to apologize — be it the person you’ve hurt or yourself.
If you cheated on your partner, lied about something, or if you shouted at your kids — it’s okay to be scared to apologize; what matters is that you now know that you have to apologize.
You may not receive forgiveness quickly, but at least you have taken the right steps to get it off your chest.
3. Learn from the Past
You may not have the power to mend everything back to how it’s supposed to be, but you do have the power to heal from it.
Learn from your mistake and from what you’ve done and strive to become a better person.
Escape the guilt. Free yourself.
Because you deserve freedom.